Friday, February 4, 2011

Facebook Fling

I am in a love/hate relationship with facebook. I love certain aspects of it, but hate others.

I love being able to stay in touch and keep up with my friends (which, by the way, is not necessarily everyone who is my "friend"), to see photos of people I love (which, by the way, is not everyone who is my "friend") and reconnecting with high school chums. Those are things I love about facebook.

I hate it that people can (and do) use it as a means of hurting other people. They post veiled comments, "innocent" innuendos as status updates and/or outright provocation. I hate the ease of being able to write the first thing that pops into my head without stopping to examine my heart for motive or realizing the consequences of what I've just said to hundreds of people. Some things can "look" so innocent, but knowing the background changes everything.

I truly wonder if I realize that James 3:5-15 refers to not only what comes out of my mouth, but what also comes out of my fingers. What I write can bless my Lord and Father and it can also curse the people who are made in His likeness. The things I say (in writing) reflect my character and thus my heart.

And so...I'm trying to figure out how to use facebook without a) hurting someone and b) getting hurt.

Thus, my minimal usage in the last couple months.


Sara said...

Thank you for these thoughts Margaret, I think everything you said is spot on and I certainly hope to do better with the use of FB myself. Sometimes it might seem innocent, but depending on what someone is going through that isn't necessarily the case. I actually watched a news article about how people can feel jealous when they read their friends are going on vacation and they suddenly realize they don't ever get to go. So, I like you, really like being able to keep up, especially with my family, but I too think we have to be careful how we use it.

Anonymous said...

I totally agree - and believe that FB often feeds the fire in areas that are tempting for us: ie., grumbling, gossiping, inappropriate relationships, etc. However, as you said, it can also be used for good . . . so I hope and pray that we believers in Christ can carefully guard our fingers! Btw, you stole one of my ideas for a post! :)